You Gotta Start Somewhere.

I’m pretty sure that everyone who is reading this blog has big dreams. It could be a career that you are actively pursuing, or just dreaming of a week long vacation in the Bahamas. No matter what it is you have to start somewhere. Love, Live, Give, More is a prime example. I never blogged before, and didn’t go to school for writing or communications. I just know that I have a vision and a purpose to inspire. I had faith in the saying “If you build it, they will come”. So, I went for it. I signed up and started blogging. I never thought that in return I would be so inspired by all of you who are reading this right now. The response has been more than I had imagined. I know that you are not just reading what I write. You are all spreading the word in your own way. The comments that you leave me are amazing. It’s uniting people from all over the world. English isn’t even the first language of some of my readers. I never thought that would be the case when I was thinking about starting LLGM. I was basically following my heart and going out on a whim. I’m so happy that I did. Love, Live, Give, More will continue to grow. Thanks to all of you!

I heard the inspirational story of how Joel Osteen’s Father, John Osteen started The Lakewood Church with only 90 people attending. It stayed that way for about 13 years, until it finally started to grow bigger and bigger. By the 17^th year, before John passed away, it reached about 6,000 people. The Osteen’s had to keep moving their church to accommodate the growth of his following. Joel said that his father never gave up. He was thankful for the 13 years that it took him to grow Lakewood into what it is today. Now, The Lakewood Church is a NBA size basketball arena in Houston Texas. John Osteen never gave up on his vision. I feel that way about Love, Live, Give, More. I am starting small, but the vision I have for it is huge. Now, let’s just hope it doesn’t take me 13 years to get there!

Take a look at some of the most successful people. Oprah didn’t go straight into having her own talk show. She got her start as a News Anchor. Tyler Perry didn’t start off at the top of the box office. He started his plays in small theaters. He gave away tickets for free, in order fill the audience. Now Tyler is ranked 6^th highest paid man in Hollywood according to Forbes Magazine. Lady Gaga started performing at bars in NYC. Now Lady Gaga is a worldwide music and fashion phenomenon. As long as you hold on to the vision that you have for your dreams, no one will be able to stop you. Remember what I’ve said in prior postings. No one can see your vision the way you can, so it’s okay if they don’t understand the way you do things.

If you are dreaming that you want to go on a vacation, start saving your money. Map out a plan on how many hours of overtime you might need to work. Research the days that are the cheapest to fly. Look for a hotel within your budget. You will be on the beach in no time. Same thing goes for the bigger dreams that God has placed in your heart. Start with a plan. It is fine if you have to start small, as long as you know that you are not going to stay small. Have faith that all your hard work will pay off, and never give up. Don’t waste another day being overwhelmed by thinking that your dreams are so far away. Start small if you have to. Small is better than nothing at all.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Choose Your Own Friends.

Have you ever not liked someone just because one of your friends doesn’t like that person? We all have a right to choose who we want to be friends with. Not everyone meshes together the same. Your best friend might have a close friend that you look at and wonder how they can even be friends. They may seem so opposite or you may not like something that your best friend’s friend did or said. That is fine, you don’t have to like everyone, as long as you use your own judgment. You should never listen to hearsay when it comes to choosing your friends, because if you did you might end up with no friends. How would you like it if your friends stop being friends with you because of something someone else said about you? You would be like WTF!? If you have or had a problem with someone you should always confront that person. Maybe there was a misunderstanding somewhere through the grapevine. Or maybe you where misinformed or misunderstood about something that they have done. You should always give people a chance to explain themselves before you write them off as not being a friend. You have to use your own judgment because a lot of times there is jealously involved. People have hidden agendas. It could be a controlling issue. Someone might not want you to be friends with a certain person so that way they can have control over your friendship or relationship. Especially if you are dealing with a boyfriend or girlfriend, then it can be all-bad. Your friends are mad because you are with your GF/BF all the time and your GF/BF is mad when you are with your friends. It can cause sort of a tug of war effect. You want to be friends with someone, but you have outside influences in your ear filling you with negative things about that person. You don’t want to be a fool and become friends with someone who is no good, and then people come back and say “See I told ya so, I knew that girl would backstab you”. On the other side you may have things in common with that person and develop a great friendship that you would have missed out on if you listened to the people around you. Make sure that when it comes to choosing your friends that you give everyone a fair chance. Don’t base your opinion of that person off of what other people say about them. Use your own better judgment. You don’t have to become their best friend over night, but you defiantly don’t have to be rude to them just because you heard some gossip about them. Of course some cases are more extreme than others, but for the most part don’t get caught up in other peoples hearsay. Nine times out of ten by the time you hear it people have added names, places, times, and dates to the story anyway. Give people a chance; you might have a great friend closer than you think.

Love, Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Face Fear and Face Your Dreams

Everyone has something that they fear. It could be bugs, snakes, heights, bees, etc. In most cases, the fears of these things are actually far worse then if we face them. I use to be terrified of bees. I would run like a wimp if I saw one near me. It would basically give me anxiety till it flew away. Eventually, I got stung by one when I least expected it. I was at the beach of all places. I was lying on the boardwalk with my friend, and it stung me on the back of my calf. It didn’t even hurt that bad. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to get stung again, but the fear of getting stung by a bee was worse than the actually bee sting. When it comes to accomplishing your goals you are going to have to face many fears. The biggest fear you will face is the fear of failure. You have to believe in yourself in order to overcome it. People will try to knock you down. The truth is, most people don’t want to see you succeed. Unfortunately that is the truth. But on the flipside, God will give you everything that you need to reach your destiny. He will bring the right people into your life, and he will also take the wrong people out of your life. It is important to do some soul searching to make sure that what you are going after is actually what you really want out of life. If it is not, you will have a very hard time overcoming your fears. The only thing that will get you through your fear of failure is the fact that you know what you are going after is your destiny, and nothing and no one can stop you. You have to have drive, and it has to come from within. It has to be your dreams, not something influenced by someone else. Know your self-worth. You can’t base your worth off of the people that you are around, or the possessions that you buy. All that stuff is temporary. God has given you a purpose in life. Your duty while you are on this earth is to accomplish that purpose. It’s okay if you feel you have missed opportunities. You will be given many more opportunities to reach your goal. You might not have taken the easiest path to get to there, but that’s okay. It’s like if you get lost on your way to a location. If you take a wrong turn, do you don’t just pull over and sit on the side of the road and give up? No, you take the next road necessary for you to get back on track to where you have to go. Never stop believing in yourself. Use the passion that you have for your dreams to help you overcome any fear you might face. Always remember if someone else can do it, so can you. Get advice from someone who has done it before. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Get involved in your craft. You can never over educate yourself. Stay humbled. Don’t ever think that you are too good to learn and make yourself better. Face your fears, and you will come face to face with your dreams. :)

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

*Meeting In The Ladies Room* Part 1

Let's discus the mystery behind what men really want in a woman. Well first of all what they really want isn’t a mystery. Every woman has a magical upside down triangle in between their legs that is at the epicenter of every man’s mind. (A guy friend of mine called it that and i thought it was hilarious) When a guy meets a girl the first thing they do is size you up. They see if they can “afford you”. I’m not talking about with money. They try to figure out if you are worth the time and effort it will take them to get to your triangle. Some guys will put in the work and some guys may not be interested in you enough to actually wait long enough for you to decide you are ready to give it up. What every woman has to realize is that we have ALL the power. Once you allow a man into your triangle, you gave up your power. It is almost impossible to get that power back once you have sex with a guy. That is when you will see a decline in interest that the guy has toward you, because he feels like he conquered his challenge and will be on to the next challenge. Now, in some cases if you wait long enough and the guy really likes you and he is at the point in his life where he wants to be in a relationship, then you have a chance of it developing in to something more than just a sexual thing. But the key to that is making him wait long enough. So many girls think the opposite. They think that in order to get a guys attention they should sleep with them. That is absolutely not the way it works. You'll have his attention while he's having sex with you, but any attention after that will be few and far between, if any at all. First of all every guy wants a challenge. Second, if you give it up too soon he will think you do that with every guy and will not take you seriously. He will still sleep with you, but if you want it to be more than just sex with that guy, forget it. And please don’t use the line “I don’t usually do this” because he will surely tell his friends. It’s kinda a joke when girls say that. They are gonna think if you say that to them your saying it to other guys. And if you “don’t usually do this” Don’t Do It!! You should never feel pressured into having sex. If you are messing around with a guy and things are going further and further and you don’t feel comfortable with it, don’t go any further. You don't have to feel like well we have done everything else so now I have to sleep with him. NO, wrong! Hey, if he thinks you’re a tease so be it. I’d rather be a tease and be able to walk outta the room and not feel used or uncomfortable because I did something I didn’t really want to do. So go on and be a tease if you have to be. Never ever have sex with a guy because you feel obligated to. You don’t owe it to him. He needs to Earn It! What makes things tricky when it comes to men is that they say they don’t want it if it’s that easy… well they sure do still sleep with the girl even if it’s easy. But they will not take her seriously after the fact, because they already got what they wanted. I’m not talking about waiting a week or two. I’m talking about making him wait months. The girls who don’t make guys wait mess things up for the girls that do. It allows a man to wander. He could really like you, but ol’ Jenny from around the block comes along and give it up on the first day. Now of course he will take it but he wont take her seriously. So through many conversations with my guy friends this is what I have concluded. In translation I don’t want it if it’s that easy really means that they will take it if it’s easy and sleep with you, but they wont take you seriously as far as anything beyond sex. So ladies, please Know Your Worth. What you do sexually now in your life may come back to haunt you one day. Nonetheless the emotions that come along with it. Women have the power, so use it wisely.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo

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What Is Meeting In The Ladies Room?

Something new I decided to add to Love, Live, Give, More. is "Meeting In The Ladies Room". I feel like women, especially young woman are still cloudy when it comes to the age old difference between men and women when it comes to sex. Through life experiences and my talks with my guy friends and my girls, i feel like i have learned a lot. Let's share our knowledge with each other. So when you see the blog title *Meeting In The Ladies Room* you know what it's about. It's meant to be fun. It's not your mom preaching to you about what not to do. It's just some girl talk. :) Enjoy!

I will still be doing regular blogs too.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Your Feelings Deserve To Be Respected

Sometimes there are people in our life that we just don’t understand. We try to communicate with them, and it seems like you are both on the same page, but it’s not long before you’re not seeing eye-to-eye again. Aside from family, these are the people that you might not need in your life. It’s not healthy if you spend the majority of your conversations arguing with that person. It is very hard to have a good relationship with someone if you can’t even get to the point of enjoying each other’s company because all you do is argue. The two of you are not always going to agree. It’s normal to see things from two different perspectives. But your relationship is doomed when you can’t see where each other is coming from or don’t admit some fault. You have to respect their feelings. It’s a problem when you try to be open with that person and tell them that something that they have done (or may not have done for that matter) is bothering you, and they dismiss it as if you are being unreasonable. If a person truly cares about you they will take your feelings into consideration and be receptive to the fact that they hurt you. If they make an effort to change in that area, then that is showing that they care for you. If they don’t care about you they usually make excuses for what they did, and turn it into an argument. If this continues to happen you are more likely to not be vocal about the things that bother you, because you are fearful of starting an argument. You might say it’s not even worth mentioning. Then you end up settling for less than what you deserve. Sometimes you have to step outside of the situation. Is this person causing you more harm than good? Are they holding you back from focusing on your goals because you’re so focused on them? You really can’t change a person over night. You can influence them, but change has to come from within. They might look back one day and see that you taught them something. They will finally see from your perspective when the things they did to you are done to them by someone else. That is when they will truly learn to respect other people’s emotions. Whether it’s family, a friend, a boyfriend or girlfriend; your feelings deserve to be respected. Give others the same respect. If someone expresses to you that you hurt them, don’t get defensive. Hear them out. Maybe it’s a miscommunication. Relationships are ruined over miscommunications all the time. Try to put yourself in other people’s shoes. See where they are coming from. It’s ok to be wrong and admit fault. People will respect you more if you can admit your wrongdoings, so don’t be too prideful.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Don't Make Excuses For Yourself.

A lot of times we are the ones holding ourselves back from reaching our full potential. We make excuses for ourselves, and find reasons why we can’t do something. I watched a show called Born Different. It talked about 48yr old conjoined twin sisters named Lori and George Schappell. They are conjoined at the head. Lori is able bodied, but George has spina bifida, which stunted her growth. These women are truly amazing. They have done more things and gone more places than I have. Although they are conjoined they still live seemingly separate lives. Lori is a singer and plays guitar, while George will hold the microphone for her. To support her sister George pays for her ticket just like any other fan would. George designed the stool that she uses as her way of getting around with Lori. After watching these women it really opened my eyes. Although I think I do a pretty good job of believing I can accomplish anything I put my mind to; these women really made me want to wipe the word can’t out of my vocabulary. They prove that no matter what your flaws or weaknesses are, you really can find a way to make things work. Lori is an award-winning bowler A bowler! Seriously, I suck at bowling and she has another person attached to her and she wins awards for bowling. These women could have taken the “poor me” route and had caregivers take care of them their whole life, but they chose to live their life to its full potential. There are many able bodied people out there that make more excuses for themselves than Lori and George do. It really makes you look foolish for even complaining about your circumstances. Remember Thomas The Train cartoon and books? He would always say “I think I can, I think I can.” That is a great message for young kids. As adults we should look at any new situation the same way. Instead of I think I can, you should say I know I can! You can accomplish anything you put your mind to. There is always a way to make things work or improve your situation. Loving yourself and believing in yourself is so important. Also not letting other peoples opinions of you hold you back. Like in my blog “It’s All Just An Opinion” I talk about how we allow what other people think about us to hold us back. If Lori and George brushed off all the naysayers and have the confidence to go after their dreams, you should too! Nothing should ever hold you back, especially yourself. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Make people believe in you. Prove it to yourself that you can accomplish your dreams.

Here is the link to Lori and George's Wikipedia page.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lori_and_George_Schappell

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo