Have you ever not liked someone just because one of your friends doesn’t like that person? We all have a right to choose who we want to be friends with. Not everyone meshes together the same. Your best friend might have a close friend that you look at and wonder how they can even be friends. They may seem so opposite or you may not like something that your best friend’s friend did or said. That is fine, you don’t have to like everyone, as long as you use your own judgment. You should never listen to hearsay when it comes to choosing your friends, because if you did you might end up with no friends. How would you like it if your friends stop being friends with you because of something someone else said about you? You would be like WTF!? If you have or had a problem with someone you should always confront that person. Maybe there was a misunderstanding somewhere through the grapevine. Or maybe you where misinformed or misunderstood about something that they have done. You should always give people a chance to explain themselves before you write them off as not being a friend. You have to use your own judgment because a lot of times there is jealously involved. People have hidden agendas. It could be a controlling issue. Someone might not want you to be friends with a certain person so that way they can have control over your friendship or relationship. Especially if you are dealing with a boyfriend or girlfriend, then it can be all-bad. Your friends are mad because you are with your GF/BF all the time and your GF/BF is mad when you are with your friends. It can cause sort of a tug of war effect. You want to be friends with someone, but you have outside influences in your ear filling you with negative things about that person. You don’t want to be a fool and become friends with someone who is no good, and then people come back and say “See I told ya so, I knew that girl would backstab you”. On the other side you may have things in common with that person and develop a great friendship that you would have missed out on if you listened to the people around you. Make sure that when it comes to choosing your friends that you give everyone a fair chance. Don’t base your opinion of that person off of what other people say about them. Use your own better judgment. You don’t have to become their best friend over night, but you defiantly don’t have to be rude to them just because you heard some gossip about them. Of course some cases are more extreme than others, but for the most part don’t get caught up in other peoples hearsay. Nine times out of ten by the time you hear it people have added names, places, times, and dates to the story anyway. Give people a chance; you might have a great friend closer than you think.
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Love Always,
Sheri xoxo
People never know how special someone is until they leave, but maybe sometimes its important to leave, so they are given that chance to see how special that someone really is! Friends never make assumptions about you. They never expect a reason to go out with you. In fact friends only expect you to be you!
ReplyDeleteIt's always better to see the good in someone before u point out the bad. I'm like this all the time but sometimes it ends up with me being hurt or me with another great friend. there is always a reason why or how someone has come into your life, your friends as well as family shape who you are, but sometimes when it comes to only your judgement you have to go on with your own instinct. you can tell who your true friends are because they don't come and go, but remain the entire time. if something happens such as you hear people or friends talk about you behind your back, act cool and act normal, don't show that you can be manipulated.then you might find who started the rumour because if they really had a problem with you then they'd keep trying to pull you down off your game. eventually getting so mad and frustrated that they give in by giving you a mean look. haha. CAUGHT!
ReplyDeletei guess that is especially in the highschoolage a pretty huge problem :/
ReplyDeleteOf corse it is always wrong to prejudge ppl but sadly most ppl are like that naturally and don't ask me why.....
Ppl definetly should choose on their own who they wanna have as friends and it is better to get to know tons of ppl but finding out that most of them and you aren't meant to be friends than always being with the same ones because you think all other ppl don't deserve your friendship r smth and don't even try.
To fail is always better than to not try and well.... everyone shold know on his or her own who he or she wants as a friend and sholdn't listen to anyone.... if a friend doesn't like you to be friends with someone else he/she doesn't deserve your friendship anyway ;)