Sometimes there are people in our life that we just don’t understand. We try to communicate with them, and it seems like you are both on the same page, but it’s not long before you’re not seeing eye-to-eye again. Aside from family, these are the people that you might not need in your life. It’s not healthy if you spend the majority of your conversations arguing with that person. It is very hard to have a good relationship with someone if you can’t even get to the point of enjoying each other’s company because all you do is argue. The two of you are not always going to agree. It’s normal to see things from two different perspectives. But your relationship is doomed when you can’t see where each other is coming from or don’t admit some fault. You have to respect their feelings. It’s a problem when you try to be open with that person and tell them that something that they have done (or may not have done for that matter) is bothering you, and they dismiss it as if you are being unreasonable. If a person truly cares about you they will take your feelings into consideration and be receptive to the fact that they hurt you. If they make an effort to change in that area, then that is showing that they care for you. If they don’t care about you they usually make excuses for what they did, and turn it into an argument. If this continues to happen you are more likely to not be vocal about the things that bother you, because you are fearful of starting an argument. You might say it’s not even worth mentioning. Then you end up settling for less than what you deserve. Sometimes you have to step outside of the situation. Is this person causing you more harm than good? Are they holding you back from focusing on your goals because you’re so focused on them? You really can’t change a person over night. You can influence them, but change has to come from within. They might look back one day and see that you taught them something. They will finally see from your perspective when the things they did to you are done to them by someone else. That is when they will truly learn to respect other people’s emotions. Whether it’s family, a friend, a boyfriend or girlfriend; your feelings deserve to be respected. Give others the same respect. If someone expresses to you that you hurt them, don’t get defensive. Hear them out. Maybe it’s a miscommunication. Relationships are ruined over miscommunications all the time. Try to put yourself in other people’s shoes. See where they are coming from. It’s ok to be wrong and admit fault. People will respect you more if you can admit your wrongdoings, so don’t be too prideful.
Love, Live, Give, More.
Love Always,
Sheri xoxo
so true.
ReplyDelete"If someone expresses to you that you hurt them, don’t get defensive." I think I nee dto learn how to do this and not be so down on myself all the time. Realize that feeling sorry for myself or trying to get someone to is not going to help the situation. Instead, I can learn from my misstep (or misquote in this case) and feel stronger because of it.
ReplyDeleteWhats even worse than dissing your feelings towards someome?? pretending to say that they like you then saying "I only did it because i knew it would make you feel happy". I'm glad I moving on, he was a waste of time by confessing i had feelings towards him even though he didn't to me. But lol his loss haha.. if your in an argument, being up yourself for being right all the time will only lose you a partner.. so just be a man/ woman and apoligise!.. and mean every word you say!!
ReplyDelete"You never know a person until you put on their shoes and walk around a little"- Atticus Finch (To Kill a moking bird)
"treat others the way you would like to be treated".
this blog post very much reminds me of my dad. since my parents are divorced we argue a lot. he's not respecting my feelings at all and he doesn't even want to see certain things from my point of view. it makes me cry a lot. :( i know he loves me but he never really tells me..
ReplyDeletethanks so much for this blog entry. it's always on point and makes me think alot. :)
respect for our feeling depends also of our nationality and personality
ReplyDeleteI'm really emotional person but people in Poland don't care about that,
I'm thinking first about the n then about me... and they in other way. at first they think what is better for them.
I always respect ppls feeling but also I want this respect back from them.
but its true that we have to be open for people
and feelings..
I LOVE the blog Sheri!!! <33
it's another one which gaves me so much to think about that what i do wrong...
xoxoxo
much love n light <3
AshleyRobertsTM/ AshLTMSYF (now TheyCallMAngel)
Oh.... didn't expect that..... but yes I can relate to it recently I made a lot of decisions coz I don't wanna have certain kind of ppl being a part of my life and it is actually not easy to break down friendships when you thought different of those ppl.
ReplyDeleteAnd well it is not always easy to respect others like you want ppl to respect you which is the ideal state of mind n my opinion but I try and I think I am not so bad at doing it :)
What comes around goes around..... so it would be wisely to threat others with respect :)
keep doing your thing..... xx
Sherii <3
ReplyDeleteYeah, when u find out that u are not understanding that person, that u r only arguing all the time with him/her.. The best thing is to stop that relationship or whatever. Otherwise u gonna be upset and mad all the time..
“If a person truly cares about you they will take your feelings into consideration and be receptive to the fact that they hurt you.” Exactly, someone who loves u wont hurt u, he/she wants your happiness. People can change, yes, but just with time and if they want to! They need willpower for that.
Respect yall =) To get it, you must give it
Love your blog Sheri Lynn
Marina
xoxo