*Meeting In The Ladies Room* Part 1

Let's discus the mystery behind what men really want in a woman. Well first of all what they really want isn’t a mystery. Every woman has a magical upside down triangle in between their legs that is at the epicenter of every man’s mind. (A guy friend of mine called it that and i thought it was hilarious) When a guy meets a girl the first thing they do is size you up. They see if they can “afford you”. I’m not talking about with money. They try to figure out if you are worth the time and effort it will take them to get to your triangle. Some guys will put in the work and some guys may not be interested in you enough to actually wait long enough for you to decide you are ready to give it up. What every woman has to realize is that we have ALL the power. Once you allow a man into your triangle, you gave up your power. It is almost impossible to get that power back once you have sex with a guy. That is when you will see a decline in interest that the guy has toward you, because he feels like he conquered his challenge and will be on to the next challenge. Now, in some cases if you wait long enough and the guy really likes you and he is at the point in his life where he wants to be in a relationship, then you have a chance of it developing in to something more than just a sexual thing. But the key to that is making him wait long enough. So many girls think the opposite. They think that in order to get a guys attention they should sleep with them. That is absolutely not the way it works. You'll have his attention while he's having sex with you, but any attention after that will be few and far between, if any at all. First of all every guy wants a challenge. Second, if you give it up too soon he will think you do that with every guy and will not take you seriously. He will still sleep with you, but if you want it to be more than just sex with that guy, forget it. And please don’t use the line “I don’t usually do this” because he will surely tell his friends. It’s kinda a joke when girls say that. They are gonna think if you say that to them your saying it to other guys. And if you “don’t usually do this” Don’t Do It!! You should never feel pressured into having sex. If you are messing around with a guy and things are going further and further and you don’t feel comfortable with it, don’t go any further. You don't have to feel like well we have done everything else so now I have to sleep with him. NO, wrong! Hey, if he thinks you’re a tease so be it. I’d rather be a tease and be able to walk outta the room and not feel used or uncomfortable because I did something I didn’t really want to do. So go on and be a tease if you have to be. Never ever have sex with a guy because you feel obligated to. You don’t owe it to him. He needs to Earn It! What makes things tricky when it comes to men is that they say they don’t want it if it’s that easy… well they sure do still sleep with the girl even if it’s easy. But they will not take her seriously after the fact, because they already got what they wanted. I’m not talking about waiting a week or two. I’m talking about making him wait months. The girls who don’t make guys wait mess things up for the girls that do. It allows a man to wander. He could really like you, but ol’ Jenny from around the block comes along and give it up on the first day. Now of course he will take it but he wont take her seriously. So through many conversations with my guy friends this is what I have concluded. In translation I don’t want it if it’s that easy really means that they will take it if it’s easy and sleep with you, but they wont take you seriously as far as anything beyond sex. So ladies, please Know Your Worth. What you do sexually now in your life may come back to haunt you one day. Nonetheless the emotions that come along with it. Women have the power, so use it wisely.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo

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What Is Meeting In The Ladies Room?

Something new I decided to add to Love, Live, Give, More. is "Meeting In The Ladies Room". I feel like women, especially young woman are still cloudy when it comes to the age old difference between men and women when it comes to sex. Through life experiences and my talks with my guy friends and my girls, i feel like i have learned a lot. Let's share our knowledge with each other. So when you see the blog title *Meeting In The Ladies Room* you know what it's about. It's meant to be fun. It's not your mom preaching to you about what not to do. It's just some girl talk. :) Enjoy!

I will still be doing regular blogs too.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Your Feelings Deserve To Be Respected

Sometimes there are people in our life that we just don’t understand. We try to communicate with them, and it seems like you are both on the same page, but it’s not long before you’re not seeing eye-to-eye again. Aside from family, these are the people that you might not need in your life. It’s not healthy if you spend the majority of your conversations arguing with that person. It is very hard to have a good relationship with someone if you can’t even get to the point of enjoying each other’s company because all you do is argue. The two of you are not always going to agree. It’s normal to see things from two different perspectives. But your relationship is doomed when you can’t see where each other is coming from or don’t admit some fault. You have to respect their feelings. It’s a problem when you try to be open with that person and tell them that something that they have done (or may not have done for that matter) is bothering you, and they dismiss it as if you are being unreasonable. If a person truly cares about you they will take your feelings into consideration and be receptive to the fact that they hurt you. If they make an effort to change in that area, then that is showing that they care for you. If they don’t care about you they usually make excuses for what they did, and turn it into an argument. If this continues to happen you are more likely to not be vocal about the things that bother you, because you are fearful of starting an argument. You might say it’s not even worth mentioning. Then you end up settling for less than what you deserve. Sometimes you have to step outside of the situation. Is this person causing you more harm than good? Are they holding you back from focusing on your goals because you’re so focused on them? You really can’t change a person over night. You can influence them, but change has to come from within. They might look back one day and see that you taught them something. They will finally see from your perspective when the things they did to you are done to them by someone else. That is when they will truly learn to respect other people’s emotions. Whether it’s family, a friend, a boyfriend or girlfriend; your feelings deserve to be respected. Give others the same respect. If someone expresses to you that you hurt them, don’t get defensive. Hear them out. Maybe it’s a miscommunication. Relationships are ruined over miscommunications all the time. Try to put yourself in other people’s shoes. See where they are coming from. It’s ok to be wrong and admit fault. People will respect you more if you can admit your wrongdoings, so don’t be too prideful.

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Don't Make Excuses For Yourself.

A lot of times we are the ones holding ourselves back from reaching our full potential. We make excuses for ourselves, and find reasons why we can’t do something. I watched a show called Born Different. It talked about 48yr old conjoined twin sisters named Lori and George Schappell. They are conjoined at the head. Lori is able bodied, but George has spina bifida, which stunted her growth. These women are truly amazing. They have done more things and gone more places than I have. Although they are conjoined they still live seemingly separate lives. Lori is a singer and plays guitar, while George will hold the microphone for her. To support her sister George pays for her ticket just like any other fan would. George designed the stool that she uses as her way of getting around with Lori. After watching these women it really opened my eyes. Although I think I do a pretty good job of believing I can accomplish anything I put my mind to; these women really made me want to wipe the word can’t out of my vocabulary. They prove that no matter what your flaws or weaknesses are, you really can find a way to make things work. Lori is an award-winning bowler A bowler! Seriously, I suck at bowling and she has another person attached to her and she wins awards for bowling. These women could have taken the “poor me” route and had caregivers take care of them their whole life, but they chose to live their life to its full potential. There are many able bodied people out there that make more excuses for themselves than Lori and George do. It really makes you look foolish for even complaining about your circumstances. Remember Thomas The Train cartoon and books? He would always say “I think I can, I think I can.” That is a great message for young kids. As adults we should look at any new situation the same way. Instead of I think I can, you should say I know I can! You can accomplish anything you put your mind to. There is always a way to make things work or improve your situation. Loving yourself and believing in yourself is so important. Also not letting other peoples opinions of you hold you back. Like in my blog “It’s All Just An Opinion” I talk about how we allow what other people think about us to hold us back. If Lori and George brushed off all the naysayers and have the confidence to go after their dreams, you should too! Nothing should ever hold you back, especially yourself. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Make people believe in you. Prove it to yourself that you can accomplish your dreams.

Here is the link to Lori and George's Wikipedia page.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lori_and_George_Schappell

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo

Bad Habits

Do you have some bad habits that you are trying to break? A lot of time we develop bad habits from the people around us. If a friend is eating junk food, u might be tempted to eat some too. If a parent is negative, you might develop negative thoughts. If u have people around you who smoke cigarettes, you might start smoking with them. You may not have been the one to start the bad habit on your own, but you’re the only one responsible for stopping your own bad habits. You can point a finger at the reasons why u have these habits, but the only person you can look to in order to changes these bad habits is yourself. Really put your mind to it. Most the time it only takes putting mind over matter. Make a list of the bad habits that you know you have. Work on fixing them everyday. Be honest with yourself and admit your flaws. Once you do that you will open the doors for self-improvement. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Bad habits are never set in stone. With some self-control you can change them. :)

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo

What Do You Want?

We all go after the things that we want in life. It’s defiantly not a bad thing. It can be the driving force to our dreams. Although, sometimes the things that we want actually prevent us from getting the things that we need. You can pick apart this topic with a fine tooth comb and it could go either way. I have realized that sometimes people are too focused on what they want materially, that it causes the things they need to slip further away. Especially if the things you want put a strain on you financially. If we just stuck to the things that we need it would be easier to afford necessities. Other than material things, people also spend time chasing someone that they want. We put a lot of energy into building relationships with our significant other. That is great when it’s an equal relationship. If it’s not equal and one person is doing all the work then it’s easy to see that you are wasting your energy on pursuing someone that you want in your life, but may not necessarily need in your life. While putting all your energy into someone who doesn’t reciprocate you are actually putting yourself on the back burner. This happens all the time. Everyone has had feelings for someone who might not have felt the same way about them. It’s normal, it’s gonna happen. You have to realize that while your pursuing someone, the energy that u are wasting on the person that you want may cause you to slip away from the healthy relationships that you need. It could be your family or friends that you are putting on the back burner, while u go after the person that you want. In an unfaithful relationship people cheat on the person that they love because they meet someone that they want. They don’t need that new person in their life; they just want them in that moment. Really take time to separate the things that you want in life and weigh them to the things that you need. Don’t spend outside your means on the material things that you want and end up coming up short on the essential things that you need. If you have feelings for someone, really think about the person that you are pursuing. Do you really need that person in your life? Don’t jeopardize the relationship you have with the people that you need in your life for someone whom you are just infatuated with. If you are in a relationship really think about the person that you are with. If you love them don’t jeopardize it and cheat with someone that you only want because you are attracted to, knowing that there isn’t any substance there. We live in a world with so much temptation. It’s easy for our wants and needs to get lost in the mix of things. I can think of times when things that I wanted caused me to miss out on things that I actually really needed. I’ve learned to really be decisive and focus more on the things that I need in life. There are less distractions that way. Try it. J

Love, Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Self Approval

There is nothing that will hold you back in life more than waiting on other people’s approval. You may never even see the day. The only approval you need is Self-approval. We all have flaws and have done things that we feel guilty for doing. Don’t harp on those things. Focus on making sure that whatever you did wrong never happens again. Use the situation to mold yourself into a better person. People make mistakes and not everyone may forgive you for what you have done. Unfortunately, that is just the consequences of your actions. Forgiving yourself and asking God for forgiveness is what’s most important. Some people aren’t always going to “approve” how you look. Everyone has something that they are self-conscious of. It could be their weight, height, nose, ears, toes, hands, hair, acne, Etc. Some people dwell on it more than others. Sometimes we become self-conscious because of what other people say about us. You might not have ever thought anything was “wrong” until someone pointed it out to you. I use to always have bigger feet than my friends in middle school. They would always make jokes about them. I started to get self-conscious about my feet, so I would never wear sandals. Now I look back like "was i really self-conscious about my feet"? Something on my body that I obviously can’t change and have no control over how they look. Now I love my feet. People tell me all the time that I have really nice feet. In the summer I’d rather wear sandals than any other shoe. So sometimes you have to look at the reason why you are self-conscious. Is it really because it’s something you don’t like about yourself or is because someone influenced you into not liking something about yourself. No matter what your outside appearance is always know that you have a talent that no one else in this world has. There is something big or small that you can do better than anyone else can. That is something that no one can take away from you. Always know that you can do anything that you put your mind to. You don’t need anyone else’s approval. Take all the necessary steps that you possibly can to achieve your goals. Do it right the first time. Cutting corners will only set you back in the long run. Educate yourself. Sometimes the best teacher is yourself by learning through trial and error. I believe all you have to do is choose what you want to be in life. Follow your heart, and take the first step. Have the faith and confidence that you can achieve all your goals. As you achieve one goal you will create new goals and you will eventually reach the success that you want.

Love,Live,Give,More. <3

Love Always,

Sherixoxo