Bad Habits

Do you have some bad habits that you are trying to break? A lot of time we develop bad habits from the people around us. If a friend is eating junk food, u might be tempted to eat some too. If a parent is negative, you might develop negative thoughts. If u have people around you who smoke cigarettes, you might start smoking with them. You may not have been the one to start the bad habit on your own, but you’re the only one responsible for stopping your own bad habits. You can point a finger at the reasons why u have these habits, but the only person you can look to in order to changes these bad habits is yourself. Really put your mind to it. Most the time it only takes putting mind over matter. Make a list of the bad habits that you know you have. Work on fixing them everyday. Be honest with yourself and admit your flaws. Once you do that you will open the doors for self-improvement. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Bad habits are never set in stone. With some self-control you can change them. :)

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri Xoxo

What Do You Want?

We all go after the things that we want in life. It’s defiantly not a bad thing. It can be the driving force to our dreams. Although, sometimes the things that we want actually prevent us from getting the things that we need. You can pick apart this topic with a fine tooth comb and it could go either way. I have realized that sometimes people are too focused on what they want materially, that it causes the things they need to slip further away. Especially if the things you want put a strain on you financially. If we just stuck to the things that we need it would be easier to afford necessities. Other than material things, people also spend time chasing someone that they want. We put a lot of energy into building relationships with our significant other. That is great when it’s an equal relationship. If it’s not equal and one person is doing all the work then it’s easy to see that you are wasting your energy on pursuing someone that you want in your life, but may not necessarily need in your life. While putting all your energy into someone who doesn’t reciprocate you are actually putting yourself on the back burner. This happens all the time. Everyone has had feelings for someone who might not have felt the same way about them. It’s normal, it’s gonna happen. You have to realize that while your pursuing someone, the energy that u are wasting on the person that you want may cause you to slip away from the healthy relationships that you need. It could be your family or friends that you are putting on the back burner, while u go after the person that you want. In an unfaithful relationship people cheat on the person that they love because they meet someone that they want. They don’t need that new person in their life; they just want them in that moment. Really take time to separate the things that you want in life and weigh them to the things that you need. Don’t spend outside your means on the material things that you want and end up coming up short on the essential things that you need. If you have feelings for someone, really think about the person that you are pursuing. Do you really need that person in your life? Don’t jeopardize the relationship you have with the people that you need in your life for someone whom you are just infatuated with. If you are in a relationship really think about the person that you are with. If you love them don’t jeopardize it and cheat with someone that you only want because you are attracted to, knowing that there isn’t any substance there. We live in a world with so much temptation. It’s easy for our wants and needs to get lost in the mix of things. I can think of times when things that I wanted caused me to miss out on things that I actually really needed. I’ve learned to really be decisive and focus more on the things that I need in life. There are less distractions that way. Try it. J

Love, Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Self Approval

There is nothing that will hold you back in life more than waiting on other people’s approval. You may never even see the day. The only approval you need is Self-approval. We all have flaws and have done things that we feel guilty for doing. Don’t harp on those things. Focus on making sure that whatever you did wrong never happens again. Use the situation to mold yourself into a better person. People make mistakes and not everyone may forgive you for what you have done. Unfortunately, that is just the consequences of your actions. Forgiving yourself and asking God for forgiveness is what’s most important. Some people aren’t always going to “approve” how you look. Everyone has something that they are self-conscious of. It could be their weight, height, nose, ears, toes, hands, hair, acne, Etc. Some people dwell on it more than others. Sometimes we become self-conscious because of what other people say about us. You might not have ever thought anything was “wrong” until someone pointed it out to you. I use to always have bigger feet than my friends in middle school. They would always make jokes about them. I started to get self-conscious about my feet, so I would never wear sandals. Now I look back like "was i really self-conscious about my feet"? Something on my body that I obviously can’t change and have no control over how they look. Now I love my feet. People tell me all the time that I have really nice feet. In the summer I’d rather wear sandals than any other shoe. So sometimes you have to look at the reason why you are self-conscious. Is it really because it’s something you don’t like about yourself or is because someone influenced you into not liking something about yourself. No matter what your outside appearance is always know that you have a talent that no one else in this world has. There is something big or small that you can do better than anyone else can. That is something that no one can take away from you. Always know that you can do anything that you put your mind to. You don’t need anyone else’s approval. Take all the necessary steps that you possibly can to achieve your goals. Do it right the first time. Cutting corners will only set you back in the long run. Educate yourself. Sometimes the best teacher is yourself by learning through trial and error. I believe all you have to do is choose what you want to be in life. Follow your heart, and take the first step. Have the faith and confidence that you can achieve all your goals. As you achieve one goal you will create new goals and you will eventually reach the success that you want.

Love,Live,Give,More. <3

Love Always,

Sherixoxo

Emotions vs. Logic

We are all naturally made up of complex and diverse emotions. Especially women; we can seemingly cry at the drop of a dime. Interestingly though women are also strong in the way we are able to handle and put up with so much. In most cases women seem to be more emotional than men. It’s usually because women hold a lot in, but it’s only a matter of time before we breakdown and let it all out. Just as a sponge can only hold so much water before it can’t soak up anymore. Where as for men they usually deal with their emotions internally. The reason I say there is no logic in emotion is because when u act off emotion your actions usually aren’t logical. Really think about it. When we regret saying something to someone it’s usually the times when we are hurt by that person or feel like we need to be defensive. You seldom will regret something that you say or do when you are not acting off emotions. That’s why when something bad or hurtful happens to you, people will tell you to sleep on it. The way you handle the situation in the morning is going to be different from the way you would have handled it while you where in the moment. We can’t help the way we feel. Sometimes we can’t even justify our emotions. There are times you will be in a bad mood or feel hurt and you can't even pinpoint why you are feeling that way. Try to switch your focus by doing something that you enjoy doing. Go for a walk and self-analyze yourself. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You might even find that it’s not what someone else did to you that got you feeling down. It could be something from within. In order to change the way you feel you have to address the problem. It’s so easy to put the blame on someone else. Sometimes you just have to make a small change in order to find happiness. We get caught up in dwelling on the smallest things sometimes. I look back sometimes and say to myself “Why was I even trippin about that?” In the moment something someone did or said to me bothered me, but in retrospect it was something so stupid. Before you act out on emotion, stop and really think about the consequences your actions will bring. Every action causes a reaction. The best way to solve a problem is to give it a little time; sleep on it. Then act on it when you are thinking logically, not emotionally.

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Communication is key..

There are people in this world that will try to make you feel like you can’t do anything right. They are always making you out to be the bad guy. Sometimes this is because they themselves have done wrong to you, so it makes them feel better to put the blame on you. They will never be able to walk in your shoes, so it’s hard for them to even begin to understand the reasons for your actions. No matter how much you try to explain, they don’t want to hear it. They would rather put you down or make you feel bad about it, instead of seeing where you are coming from. They feel as if once you do one thing “wrong” they can hold it against you to make themselves feel better about their wrong doings. That is not right. You have to accept responsibility for your actions. Two wrongs don’t make a right. This happens a lot in relationships. When one partner is dishonest and unfaithful they end up feeling guilty about it after the fact. They will then look for anything that the other partner may do “wrong” to make themselves feel better for their wrong doings. They use it to justify their own actions, instead of being the bigger person and accepting responsibility for their actions. Once this happens, it’s usually a downward spiral. You can’t make progress in a relationship or when your trying to mend a relationship if you both keep pointing fingers. What do you do if you find yourself in this situation? Well, communication is key. You can’t solve a problem without communication. Whether it's between family, friends or someone your in a relationship with; you have to talk things over. You might not get the outcome that you want, but at least you will get an outcome. Honesty with yourself about your own wrong doings will allow you to be honest with the other person. Honesty can either set someone free or be the first step in mending a relationship. It’s better not to leave any skeletons in your closet, because what’s done in darkness will eventually come to light. I believe that true LOVE can prevail. It takes both people to accept their own faults, as well as accepting each other’s faults. It will take some time and forgiveness on both parts, but anything is possible.

Love,Live,Give,More. <3

P.s I Love You.

Love Always, Sheri xoxo

Surround Yourself With Positivity.

I think that the best way to surround yourself with positive people is to radiate positivity. Just as negativity is contagious, so is positivity. It can take just one negative comment to shift your whole mood. It could even ruin your whole day. This is why you have to learn to brush of all negativity with positivity. You don’t even have to say anything back to that person. You just have to say to yourself “Ha, I’ll show them”. Don’t let anyone get away with being blatantly disrespectful to you. Always stand up for yourself, because if you allow someone to treat you bad they will. Don’t be an easy target. It’s like the bully in school. Negative people prey on who they think are weak minded. Remember misery always loves company. Negative people also don’t want you to be happy. They will try to bring you down with them. So if you can, try to remove yourself from the situation.

The power of positive thinking can take you very far in life. It is said to take a look at the 5 people you spend the most time with to see where your life is heading. I have never had a lot of close friends. Iv always looked at it as Quality not Quantity. Sometimes less is more. I have one best friend back home that I’ve known since I was 10yrs old. Out here in LA I have a lot of friends but only 1 of them is my best friend. I LOVE all my friends dearly. Everyone can be negative at times; it's a part of life. We are all humans with complex feelings. Just make sure that your good always outweighs your bad. Keep your intentions pure, your heart open and you will find happiness with the people who come into your life. Also, keep little inspirational reminders around you that keep you positive. I have little things all over my room that inspire me. I have cute decorative things on my wall that say Believe, Imagine, Inspire, Dream, Love, Live, Faith, Smile, Hope, Success, Happiness and Harmony. I love them they are so cute! It will take some time but I'm confident that you can find happiness within yourself.

Love,Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo