There are people in this world that will try to make you feel like you can’t do anything right. They are always making you out to be the bad guy. Sometimes this is because they themselves have done wrong to you, so it makes them feel better to put the blame on you. They will never be able to walk in your shoes, so it’s hard for them to even begin to understand the reasons for your actions. No matter how much you try to explain, they don’t want to hear it. They would rather put you down or make you feel bad about it, instead of seeing where you are coming from. They feel as if once you do one thing “wrong” they can hold it against you to make themselves feel better about their wrong doings. That is not right. You have to accept responsibility for your actions. Two wrongs don’t make a right. This happens a lot in relationships. When one partner is dishonest and unfaithful they end up feeling guilty about it after the fact. They will then look for anything that the other partner may do “wrong” to make themselves feel better for their wrong doings. They use it to justify their own actions, instead of being the bigger person and accepting responsibility for their actions. Once this happens, it’s usually a downward spiral. You can’t make progress in a relationship or when your trying to mend a relationship if you both keep pointing fingers. What do you do if you find yourself in this situation? Well, communication is key. You can’t solve a problem without communication. Whether it's between family, friends or someone your in a relationship with; you have to talk things over. You might not get the outcome that you want, but at least you will get an outcome. Honesty with yourself about your own wrong doings will allow you to be honest with the other person. Honesty can either set someone free or be the first step in mending a relationship. It’s better not to leave any skeletons in your closet, because what’s done in darkness will eventually come to light. I believe that true LOVE can prevail. It takes both people to accept their own faults, as well as accepting each other’s faults. It will take some time and forgiveness on both parts, but anything is possible.
Love,Live,Give,More. <3
P.s I Love You.
Love Always, Sheri xoxo
Good point. People will respect you more if you're willing to take responsibility for your own actions instead of pointing the finger at someone else. Doing that makes you lose the respect that you worked so hard to earn and people will think of you as selfish, as a liar, and not faithful. Communication, acceptance, and responsibility are the 3 big keys in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou always write such good blogs, hunnie. You are totally right. I think that people forgot to communicate and they forgot to think. Thank you for reminding me that we should consider and look deeper into someone.
ReplyDeleteLove you,
xoxo
EmaBaksa
thats a true, god bless you Sheri!
ReplyDeleteThe people can be responsible always, but not adult at all, than is the thing:
if ur honest with urself, u will see many doors open, if u dnt...u will see the in the end the negative results...
comunnication is the key, but avoid the negative people too!
:)
Thanks Sheri, Love you xxx
Christian Méndez
You're so right. Honesty and communication are absolutely essential to make any sort of relationship work.
ReplyDeletePeople who make relationships work are people who are really good at forgiveness and acceptance.
I also like the phrase "When you point your finger at someone, remember you have 3 pointing back at yourself"
Happy Holidays Sheri.
Rachel x
No matter how big the distance is between any kind of relationship either next door to you or across the other side of the world from you they still are human and should be treated as though it’s the last time you will ever hear from them again. You can’t be proper to them unless you spend time to yourself as well. You can’t give it your all if you are not at your best. Even if the communication is really minimal or it’s so hard to talk to someone, don’t worry keep talking. Always break the silence. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. But sometimes things don’t work out the way you planned or wanted, if it doesn’t just tough it out, because In the end it will be totally perfect. One day you will find that someone. But relationships end (like friend ships) come to an end sometimes if there is an awkward silence between you. Never be afraid to speak your mind but always be careful of what ever say. It may seem harmless at first but it can be deadly. If you haven’t got something nice to say don’t say it at all. Your body language makes 90% of your communication. If you are not seeing them personally make sure what you need to say is written correctly and cannot be read a wrong or different way.
ReplyDelete“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained”- C.S. Lewis
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”-Maya Angelou
xoxo Love Amo :)
so true gurl! I can tell.. one of my childhood friends was exactly like that. She was all the time making me feel down. Every lil mistake I comitted, she shouted it out loud so others could hear it and judge me. I was like: hey! what's wrong? dont u all commit mistakes as humans u r? god! we're not perfect! I agree with u when u say that they just wanna justify themselves. exactly! I swear i tried to talk to her.. explain her the situation. she couldn't do that! but she didnt want to listen. So when i left school, i decided not to keep in touch with her anymore. She was so mean to me, and I dont want people like that near me. They just will harm u.
ReplyDeleteThx for talk about this =) This cheers people up