Choose Your Own Friends.

Have you ever not liked someone just because one of your friends doesn’t like that person? We all have a right to choose who we want to be friends with. Not everyone meshes together the same. Your best friend might have a close friend that you look at and wonder how they can even be friends. They may seem so opposite or you may not like something that your best friend’s friend did or said. That is fine, you don’t have to like everyone, as long as you use your own judgment. You should never listen to hearsay when it comes to choosing your friends, because if you did you might end up with no friends. How would you like it if your friends stop being friends with you because of something someone else said about you? You would be like WTF!? If you have or had a problem with someone you should always confront that person. Maybe there was a misunderstanding somewhere through the grapevine. Or maybe you where misinformed or misunderstood about something that they have done. You should always give people a chance to explain themselves before you write them off as not being a friend. You have to use your own judgment because a lot of times there is jealously involved. People have hidden agendas. It could be a controlling issue. Someone might not want you to be friends with a certain person so that way they can have control over your friendship or relationship. Especially if you are dealing with a boyfriend or girlfriend, then it can be all-bad. Your friends are mad because you are with your GF/BF all the time and your GF/BF is mad when you are with your friends. It can cause sort of a tug of war effect. You want to be friends with someone, but you have outside influences in your ear filling you with negative things about that person. You don’t want to be a fool and become friends with someone who is no good, and then people come back and say “See I told ya so, I knew that girl would backstab you”. On the other side you may have things in common with that person and develop a great friendship that you would have missed out on if you listened to the people around you. Make sure that when it comes to choosing your friends that you give everyone a fair chance. Don’t base your opinion of that person off of what other people say about them. Use your own better judgment. You don’t have to become their best friend over night, but you defiantly don’t have to be rude to them just because you heard some gossip about them. Of course some cases are more extreme than others, but for the most part don’t get caught up in other peoples hearsay. Nine times out of ten by the time you hear it people have added names, places, times, and dates to the story anyway. Give people a chance; you might have a great friend closer than you think.

Love, Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Face Fear and Face Your Dreams

Everyone has something that they fear. It could be bugs, snakes, heights, bees, etc. In most cases, the fears of these things are actually far worse then if we face them. I use to be terrified of bees. I would run like a wimp if I saw one near me. It would basically give me anxiety till it flew away. Eventually, I got stung by one when I least expected it. I was at the beach of all places. I was lying on the boardwalk with my friend, and it stung me on the back of my calf. It didn’t even hurt that bad. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to get stung again, but the fear of getting stung by a bee was worse than the actually bee sting. When it comes to accomplishing your goals you are going to have to face many fears. The biggest fear you will face is the fear of failure. You have to believe in yourself in order to overcome it. People will try to knock you down. The truth is, most people don’t want to see you succeed. Unfortunately that is the truth. But on the flipside, God will give you everything that you need to reach your destiny. He will bring the right people into your life, and he will also take the wrong people out of your life. It is important to do some soul searching to make sure that what you are going after is actually what you really want out of life. If it is not, you will have a very hard time overcoming your fears. The only thing that will get you through your fear of failure is the fact that you know what you are going after is your destiny, and nothing and no one can stop you. You have to have drive, and it has to come from within. It has to be your dreams, not something influenced by someone else. Know your self-worth. You can’t base your worth off of the people that you are around, or the possessions that you buy. All that stuff is temporary. God has given you a purpose in life. Your duty while you are on this earth is to accomplish that purpose. It’s okay if you feel you have missed opportunities. You will be given many more opportunities to reach your goal. You might not have taken the easiest path to get to there, but that’s okay. It’s like if you get lost on your way to a location. If you take a wrong turn, do you don’t just pull over and sit on the side of the road and give up? No, you take the next road necessary for you to get back on track to where you have to go. Never stop believing in yourself. Use the passion that you have for your dreams to help you overcome any fear you might face. Always remember if someone else can do it, so can you. Get advice from someone who has done it before. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Get involved in your craft. You can never over educate yourself. Stay humbled. Don’t ever think that you are too good to learn and make yourself better. Face your fears, and you will come face to face with your dreams. :)

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo