Emotions vs. Logic

We are all naturally made up of complex and diverse emotions. Especially women; we can seemingly cry at the drop of a dime. Interestingly though women are also strong in the way we are able to handle and put up with so much. In most cases women seem to be more emotional than men. It’s usually because women hold a lot in, but it’s only a matter of time before we breakdown and let it all out. Just as a sponge can only hold so much water before it can’t soak up anymore. Where as for men they usually deal with their emotions internally. The reason I say there is no logic in emotion is because when u act off emotion your actions usually aren’t logical. Really think about it. When we regret saying something to someone it’s usually the times when we are hurt by that person or feel like we need to be defensive. You seldom will regret something that you say or do when you are not acting off emotions. That’s why when something bad or hurtful happens to you, people will tell you to sleep on it. The way you handle the situation in the morning is going to be different from the way you would have handled it while you where in the moment. We can’t help the way we feel. Sometimes we can’t even justify our emotions. There are times you will be in a bad mood or feel hurt and you can't even pinpoint why you are feeling that way. Try to switch your focus by doing something that you enjoy doing. Go for a walk and self-analyze yourself. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You might even find that it’s not what someone else did to you that got you feeling down. It could be something from within. In order to change the way you feel you have to address the problem. It’s so easy to put the blame on someone else. Sometimes you just have to make a small change in order to find happiness. We get caught up in dwelling on the smallest things sometimes. I look back sometimes and say to myself “Why was I even trippin about that?” In the moment something someone did or said to me bothered me, but in retrospect it was something so stupid. Before you act out on emotion, stop and really think about the consequences your actions will bring. Every action causes a reaction. The best way to solve a problem is to give it a little time; sleep on it. Then act on it when you are thinking logically, not emotionally.

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Communication is key..

There are people in this world that will try to make you feel like you can’t do anything right. They are always making you out to be the bad guy. Sometimes this is because they themselves have done wrong to you, so it makes them feel better to put the blame on you. They will never be able to walk in your shoes, so it’s hard for them to even begin to understand the reasons for your actions. No matter how much you try to explain, they don’t want to hear it. They would rather put you down or make you feel bad about it, instead of seeing where you are coming from. They feel as if once you do one thing “wrong” they can hold it against you to make themselves feel better about their wrong doings. That is not right. You have to accept responsibility for your actions. Two wrongs don’t make a right. This happens a lot in relationships. When one partner is dishonest and unfaithful they end up feeling guilty about it after the fact. They will then look for anything that the other partner may do “wrong” to make themselves feel better for their wrong doings. They use it to justify their own actions, instead of being the bigger person and accepting responsibility for their actions. Once this happens, it’s usually a downward spiral. You can’t make progress in a relationship or when your trying to mend a relationship if you both keep pointing fingers. What do you do if you find yourself in this situation? Well, communication is key. You can’t solve a problem without communication. Whether it's between family, friends or someone your in a relationship with; you have to talk things over. You might not get the outcome that you want, but at least you will get an outcome. Honesty with yourself about your own wrong doings will allow you to be honest with the other person. Honesty can either set someone free or be the first step in mending a relationship. It’s better not to leave any skeletons in your closet, because what’s done in darkness will eventually come to light. I believe that true LOVE can prevail. It takes both people to accept their own faults, as well as accepting each other’s faults. It will take some time and forgiveness on both parts, but anything is possible.

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P.s I Love You.

Love Always, Sheri xoxo

Surround Yourself With Positivity.

I think that the best way to surround yourself with positive people is to radiate positivity. Just as negativity is contagious, so is positivity. It can take just one negative comment to shift your whole mood. It could even ruin your whole day. This is why you have to learn to brush of all negativity with positivity. You don’t even have to say anything back to that person. You just have to say to yourself “Ha, I’ll show them”. Don’t let anyone get away with being blatantly disrespectful to you. Always stand up for yourself, because if you allow someone to treat you bad they will. Don’t be an easy target. It’s like the bully in school. Negative people prey on who they think are weak minded. Remember misery always loves company. Negative people also don’t want you to be happy. They will try to bring you down with them. So if you can, try to remove yourself from the situation.

The power of positive thinking can take you very far in life. It is said to take a look at the 5 people you spend the most time with to see where your life is heading. I have never had a lot of close friends. Iv always looked at it as Quality not Quantity. Sometimes less is more. I have one best friend back home that I’ve known since I was 10yrs old. Out here in LA I have a lot of friends but only 1 of them is my best friend. I LOVE all my friends dearly. Everyone can be negative at times; it's a part of life. We are all humans with complex feelings. Just make sure that your good always outweighs your bad. Keep your intentions pure, your heart open and you will find happiness with the people who come into your life. Also, keep little inspirational reminders around you that keep you positive. I have little things all over my room that inspire me. I have cute decorative things on my wall that say Believe, Imagine, Inspire, Dream, Love, Live, Faith, Smile, Hope, Success, Happiness and Harmony. I love them they are so cute! It will take some time but I'm confident that you can find happiness within yourself.

Love,Live,Give,More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

Individuality..

We all have days when we feel like we look terrible. Our clothes don’t fit right or we are having a bad hair day. Even a dreaded monster pimple is sure to make it so you dont want to leave the house. It’s normal, it happens to the best of us. But to feel bad about yourself on day-to-day basis is not how you should feel. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Say it over and over again until you believe yourself. Say it until you have the biggest smile on your face. I guarantee that you will feel better about yourself. The world that we live in nowadays allows very little room for “imperfections”. There is a lot of pressure to “fit it”. Forget all that BS, It’s irrelevant. If you feel good about yourself then it doesn’t matter what anyone else on this planet thinks about you, or appearance. Live a healthy lifestyle, and hold yourself at the highest regard. I can’t express enough about the importance of LOVING YOURSELF. The first thing we should be thought as a child is to LOVE ourselves. When you LOVE yourself you have the confidence it takes to face the world. When you don’t LOVE yourself you will tend to shelter yourself, and hide behind your insecurities. Don’t loose yourself or individuality trying to “fit in”. I have personally never “fit in”. Seriously, I just never cared enough about what other people where doing. I’m a very simple, east coast girl. I intend on staying the way I am. Trying to be anything else would come off as phony. If you don’t like doing something that your friends are doing, don’t do it. It’s that simple.

The reason I love Lady Gaga is because she thinks outside the box. She is so crazy, in a good way. Her creativity is on a whole other level. That is what makes her so unique. She didn’t come out of a cookie cutter. Now she is a brand because she didn’t try to “fit in”. No matter what is cool, or in style at the moment never loose your individuality. If you want to be over the top, be over the top. If you want to be simple, be simple. No matter what you choose to be, just remember to be you.

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Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

GIVE, More. <3

Thanksgiving just past and the next thing that is on everyone’s mind is Christmas/ Hanukkah. Tis the season for giving. I’ve already been emptying out my change to the Goodwill bell ringers. I always donate at the registers of grocery stores because they are usually raising money for some sort of good cause. There are more ways to GIVE than just money. Since money is so tight for a lot of people it’s understandable if you don’t have the means to donate money. There are many ways to GIVE. Starting with your closet. Clean it out! Half the stuff in there you don’t wear, and probably haven’t worn in a good year or so. Asking yourself if you would wear it again is the first sign that you wont. Put it all in a bag and donate it, because I guarantee they will find someone who will wear it. Now, look in your food cabinets. See those cans of food that have been sitting there collecting dust? Go give them to a canned food drive. There is someone out there that would love to eat it. GIVE back to the earth. Plant a tree. If you don’t want to plant a tree you can help the environment by picking up litter. If your “to cool” to pick up litter you can help by conserving water and electricity. GIVE your time by volunteering at an after school program or even an animal shelter. GIVE back to your friends and family. The smallest gestures go a long way. Offer a friend a ride, buy them some ice cream or take them to a movie. The smallest gestures of appreciation leave the biggest impact on people. If you can’t do any of that you can at least GIVE someone a complement. You can make someone’s day with a simple complement, especially someone who would least expect it. That’s all. I just wanted to encourage everyone to GIVE in some way. Giving a little goes a long way. J Love, Live, GIVE, More. <3

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Love Always, Sheri xoxo

Do you know your dream?...

Career wise; what would you do for a living even if you didn’t get paid to do it? You’ve heard this phrase many times before. As corny as it may sound it’s a very important question to ask yourself. I ask people this question all the time, and surprisingly to me, a lot of people don’t have an answer. Some people just have a hard time seeing what they want to do for a career. Most of the time they can’t see it because it’s clouded with doubt. To ask the same question again in a different form may allow people to see past the doubt. What is your dream job? Take away all self-doubt and answer this question honestly. I truly believe that your answer to this question is your destiny. I believe God places dreams in our heart because he knows that we are capable of accomplishing that dream. It’s ok if someone else thinks that your crazy for having that dream or even if they think you wont be able to accomplish it. That is to be expected because it’s your dream not theirs. No one will ever see your vision as you do. You have to be the one who figures out how to get to your dreams and go for it. Some people may have better circumstances than you, but that doesn’t mean you wont accomplish your goals. It just means your gonna have to work a little bit harder. I don’t believe in LUCK. I BELIEVE in FAITH and HARD WORK. It’s so easy to say, “ oh, she is so lucky she got that job” No, she got that job because she worked hard. As women it is very important that we Know Your Worth, because in some cases there are women who take the easy way out in this predominantly male driven business world. When you know your worth and respect yourself that is how you will be treated. Any position that you work hard to earn will no doubt last longer. It will also be much more rewarding in the end. You can do anything you put your mind to. Two of my favorite sayings are “Where there’s a will there’s a way” and from Field of Dreams “ If you build it they will come”. If you have the will to do something I believe you can make a way even if there seems to be no way. Almost everything at one point seemed impossible until someone made it possible. If you build it they will come sounds so cheesy, but so true. I’m not saying your gonna go out and build a baseball field. What I mean is whatever steps you are taking to build your dream, just know that the success will come. Never give up! Always remember to Love, Live, Give, More. <3

Love Always, Sheri xoxo

Set the bar high ladies.

I was watching a talk show and it's crazy how women allow men to treat them. This is what I have to say about it. Enjoy :P

As women we need to set the bar high when it comes to the way a man treats us. If we don’t set the bar they will set it for us. In most cases they will set it lower than what we deserve. Ask yourself this question. What is my worth? That is one of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself. When it comes to sex, giving it up too fast is dangerous for so many reasons. Besides health concerns, you have a whole other mess of problems on your hands. Self confidence is an essential part of living. When women allow men to take advantage of them it takes a toll on their self esteem, self confidence, and last but not least self worth. As women we have the power. We have the “golden ticket” that needs to be earned. I personally hold myself at the highest regard, and so should you. Just because a guy takes you on a date, doesn’t mean that you “owe” him anything. If he buys you something it should be outta the kindness of his heart, not that he’s looking for something in return. I know my worth. I'm worth more than a date, a pair of shoes, a hand bag, etc. That stuff is not worth taking a piece of my soul. Sure we all get fooled from time to time. We think we find someone who genuinely cares about us and they turn out to be less than what we had hyped them up to be. At some point you have to learn. Don't allow it to keep happening. As long as you set the bar high, hold yourself at the highest regard, and know your worth; you will hold the power. You never should feel like you owe a man sex. That is just ridiculous. You shouldn’t be sleeping with someone who makes you feel that way. The true test to know if a guy really likes you for you is making them wait. If they are hyping you up talking the talk, you better make sure they are gonna back it up. Don't fall for the game. After all, men like a challenge. Don’t give it away, make them earn it!

Love, Live, Give, More.

Love Always,

Sheri xoxo

It's all just an Opinion.

From the second we are born we are a product of Opinion. Of course our parents think we are the most beautiful lil thing they have ever seen. The doctors and nurses where probably looking at us like we where an ugly, wrinkled up, slimy lil thing. It’s amazing how people are effected by what people say or think about them. It’s all just an Opinion. Not everyone is going to think your pretty. Not everyone is going to like your body or hair color or even your skin color. It’s all their Opinion. That’s why you have to Love yourself. You have to hold yourself at the highest regard. Don’t let anyone’s Opinion about you make you feel negatively about yourself. Truth of the matter is, their negative Opinion is more than likely a reflection of their own personal insecurities. When someone complements you, and tells you that they like your outfit, or your hair and tell you that your pretty, it’s also their Opinion and that is what you have to realize. There is always going to be people on your side and there are always going to be people against you. It’s just the facts of life. You can’t please everyone… and that’s OK. It takes a strong person to not be effected by what other people think about them. It’s similar to peer pressure. When our peers are doing something that we may not particularly want to do. Somehow, sometimes we give in even though it’s not something we would normally do on our own. Opinions can change the course of your life. They can actually make or break you. When people are encouraging you to do something it’s their Opinion. When they are being negative about something that you are doing it’s their Opinion. How many peoples dreams do you think have been shattered by another persons Opinion? Caused by people filling their heads with negativity saying things like, that’s a dumb idea, no one is going to buy your product, you don’t have enough experience, you should do it this way, not that way, your not pretty enough. Etc. It’s so important to listen to your own heart and have confidence in what you are doing. You can’t listen to any negative Opinions that people have about you when you are doing your own thing and working toward your dreams. I’m sure people where telling the person who invented Crocs that they wouldn’t sell one pair. Saying who’s going to buy those ridiculous looking rubber shoes? Well, I’m sure the creator is laughing straight to the bank! What if they said, yeah your right It’s just a dumb idea, I’m not going to pursue it. They didn't let people's Opinion of their idea effect them. They had confidence in their product and saw the vision of where it could take them. No one is ever going to see your vision like you will. Not everyone is going understand your thought process, and that’s OK. There are more people out there that will get it, and Love what you are working on. If you’re a designer there will be people that don’t like your designs. You have to believe and know that there are people out there that will Love it. Don’t let some tell you “That design and color is so ugly, no one will buy it”. That is just their Opinion. I could go on and on and give many examples, but I think you get my point. Bottom line, don’t let that negative Opinion about you set in. If you let one person’s negative Opinion about your dreams set in, you may never fulfill your destiny. Love, Live, Give, More. <3

Love always,
Sherixoxo

Why Love, Live, Give, More?

Love, Live, Give, More is not only the title of my blogspot, it's a motto that I live by. LOVE: for obvious reasons. I truly believe that the world revolves around Love. The reason we strive for things is because we have a Love for whatever that thing may be. We don't work hard to make money so we can buy and do things that we hate. The whole purpose of making money is that we can buy and do the things that we Love. Some people are even fortunate enough to be making money by having a career in doing something that they Love to do. Also, life would be nothing if we didn't share it with the people that we Love. LIVE: we only have one life to Live, so you better Live it! You can stay focused on your goals and still go out and enjoy your life with your friends and family. Don't be so uptight and stressed out all the time. Just relax and Live. For me when I say Live that means being creative. If I woke up one day and all my creativity was gone, that would be the end of me. Creating and developing things is what truly makes me happy. What do you Live for? GIVE: So many people are all about take, take, take without realizing that we reap what we stow. You can't expect to keep eating the fruits from a garden without watering it. Eventually all the fruits will be gone. Don't expect great things to happen to you if your constantly taking. You have to Give in order to receive. That goes for relationships and your dreams aswell. You can't expect things to just happen. You have to Give it your all and invest in your craft in order to see results. MORE: is simply that. Do more Loving, Living and Giving. You will never regret doing More. <3

Love always,

Sherixoxo